Feeling stuck? How CBT can help you break free of your habits.
Guest article for FocusOn Health and Wellbeing discussing my passion subject: the power of our thoughts.
"Historian and writer Will Durant once said: “we are what we repeatedly do”. This quote has always resonated with me as it eloquently summarises the sheer power our habits have to shape our lives as a whole. If this is true, then we need to pay attention to what we choose to do daily, but is focusing on external behaviours only addressing half of the issue?"
When I received the opportunity to write a guest article for Focus On Health and Wellbeing, I knew straight away what I wanted to share. When I ask new clients, "what is your understanding of CBT?" I hear time and time again: "it's about changing our behaviours". Whilst this answer isn't wrong (we CAN change our behaviours and reap numerous, life-changing rewards), it really only covers half of what we do in Cognitive Mind Coaching. What people often overlook, is the power our daily thinking habits have over our emotional wellbeing. I know this first hand, as I went through most of my early twenties experiencing life's ups and downs like a rollercoaster of emotions, always blaming my moods on external circumstances, and not making the connection between what was going on in my head and how that connected to my outlook. Once I discovered how our thoughts shape our experience, and that we actually have the power to change the way we think, I felt like I whole new world had opened up to me. One in which I was no longer at the mercy of every setback or inconvenience, and where I actually had some control over my own emotional state. It was empowering. Because of that it has become my passion to share these techniques with others and help develop not only their daily behaviour habits, but also their mental resilience.
"We know certain activities make us feel better (e.g.: exercise, restful sleep etc.) and that some make us feel worse (e.g.: sedentary lifestyle, alcohol, and drug use etc.) but in addition to that, what if you regularly have critical thoughts about yourself, catastrophise about the future or constantly believe others think badly of you? It’s likely that this repeated habit is also going to shape the view you have of yourself and others."
If you want to find out more about how CBT combines both changing behaviours AND challenging our thoughts, check out the guest article I wrote for FocusOn Health and Wellbeing: